Finding Sanctuary Beyond the Sanctuary: Navigating Safety Concerns in Church Spaces
In the hushed whispers of countless souls, a poignant question echoes through the pews, reverberating off stained-glass windows and hallowed halls: "I love God, but I don’t feel safe around Christians or the church. What do I do?" It's a question draped in vulnerability, laden with the weight of unspoken struggles, and often steeped in shame. Yet, it's a question that countless individuals grapple with silently, a hidden epidemic within the fabric of faith communities.
The modern church, with its dazzling lights, charismatic sermons, and celebrity personas, can sometimes feel more like a stage for spectacle than a sanctuary for souls. In this environment, where worship can resemble show business and congregants are mere spectators, it's understandable why many might feel a profound sense of unease. The disparity between the ostentatious façade and the authentic essence of spirituality can leave individuals feeling disillusioned and disconnected.
However, the absence of glitz and glamour does not necessarily equate to safety. Behind closed doors, spiritual abuse, misuse of authority, and a lack of accountability shroud some congregations in shadows of distrust. For those who have endured such trauma, the wounds run deep, leaving scars that distort perceptions of trust and faith.
Amid this tumult, it's essential to recognize that you are not alone. Your experiences, though unique in their details, are shared by many who have navigated similar paths. It's okay to acknowledge the pain, the confusion, and the disillusionment. Your feelings are valid, and your journey toward healing is worthy of compassion and support.
So, what do you do when the sacred space of the church feels anything but safe?
Firstly, acknowledge that your discomfort is not a reflection of your faith in God. A lot of what we recognize as the church today is a manmade institution, most of which does not reflect how the early church conducted its gatherings.
Secondly, seek solace in the realization that God walks beside you, even when the path seems shrouded in shadows. The most important thing you can do is prioritize your healing journey. Healing from religious trauma is a process that requires time, patience, and self-compassion. Surround yourself with understanding individuals who can offer empathy and support without judgment. Consider seeking guidance from a therapist or coach experienced in navigating spiritual crises.
Lastly, embrace the sacred moments that unfold beyond the four walls of the church. God's presence is not confined to a specific space or time but permeates every aspect of your existence. Find sanctuary in the quiet moments of reflection, the gentle whispers in every day, and search for a community of like-minded people. We offer a support group for those healing from spiritual abuse. If you’d like to join send me an email at: shelby@pilgrimageandco.com
In the end, remember that you deserve to feel safety, love, and belonging when it comes to the church walls. As you continue forward on the path of healing, don’t neglect your needs. God may lead you away from the institution of church for awhile and that’s okay. You might find a small group or another way to connect with believers. The healing journey looks different for everyone.